The Untainted.
Chapter 17
*Rihannat and Olalekan * At the party
Qazeem(olalekan) stared at Rihannat for a very long time before smiling softly." l love your courage and belief. I love your strong will and virtues. Even when you know the road isn't smooth, you still decided to go on while navigating alone. You choose independence over cowardice. You did well.
Some other girls will have jump on board. But l will tell you something as a man and.... a brother today: the word "brother" sounded sour, also leaving a bitter after taste on his tongue. He felt very conscious of the word and that makes him suddenly uncomfortable." But he continued.
Rihannat men loves beauty alot. Most especially women who are very beautiful like you. *She blushed*
But Rihannat beauty is just beauty, it fades with time. Beauty can't keep a man with you because we have countless beauties out there. Giving in is like selling yourself when you marry a man who only loves your beauty. Not the real you. A woman who has just beauty and nothing else is like a beautiful vase but empty inside. Or like an empty shell with no value.
Some even marry elderly men for money and comfort but they become adulterers due to unsatiated desire, which is a great sin. They are living in wealth, money and jewelries but as time goes on they bore you. Everything becomes dull and boring to you. You feel lonely and lost. The reason why you will see lots of beautiful and wealthy women looking for young men to love and satisfy them outside their marriage today. They are lost! You only see the glitters but they are dead inside. They know their body well enough, how their system works! What their body wants!, but all because of money they threw caution to the wind. Committing Zina, a great sin.
(Cold smile)They enter into the world of sin and destruction because of something they have control over but greediness took over them. They still don't want to leave because of the pecks that comes with that marriage( wealth) and some stayed because of condemnation. Divorce? a "taboo"word that reflects in their life forever. People's judging eyes and whispers.
Some also stayed because their life and future is bleak without the man. The man builds the life he wants for them and they live it. They don't have a life of their own. No achievement! And these people, when the storm and second phase of life hits the marriage, they lose it upstairs. He said pointing at his head. They have no knowledge on how to cope.
If they had thought twice before stepping into the trap called marriage in disguise like you, we won't have lots of divorces and misfortune women out there.
We won't have disrespected and harrassed wives in their husband homes by the husband's family. We won't have husband beating, devaluing, disrespecting, emotionally abusing their wives and disrespectful to the wife's families. While the wife has no choice but to condone it when she has no other option.
Marriage is not a game. It's a long term commitment. A journey you think about thoroughly before going into it. So you do not regret later on.
A lady without ambition and goals before marriage is nothing but a pawn and child bearing machine. A tool for satisfaction for men of nowadays. Men with twisted logic.
Though during the lifetime of the prophet (May peace and blessings of Allah be upon him.) Ladies were not treated that way even if they are jobless. They were like Queens because the men then believe they will have enough time to care for the family( husband and kids). But nowadays the men who fears Allah when dealing with their wives are few.
Islamically staying home mum is the best as it allows you to train the kids religiously and morally. It allows you to care for your home and family in the best way. Your husband provides as the Qur'an commanded. You don't have any business with provisions, it's your husband's responsibility but now few men obey Allah. Getting education, knowledge or learning trade helps you raise your kids better. It helps you manage your home well. Not necessarily for working.
Even some inlaws are twisted in thought, they want the wife to bring to the table too. Most especially those who see the wife beneath them. They criticize you at every chance they get, humiliate the wife at every junction. Always less pleasing to them no matter what she does.
Have something that makes you worth appreciating. If not, even if he has the world at his fingertips, the ridicules, pains, insult and embarrassment that comes with it are just as much as his worth. You need to be a woman in marriage not a girl, not just a lady! But a real woman with responsibilities on her shoulder. So you need lots of knowledge. And deen.
And if he is ready to nurture you, see you grow alongside him, stand beside him in every step he takes, even if you are a stay at home mom caring for the family. You need to be educated, learn a trade or two or gain some knowledge of your own. So you will not feel useless. Low self esteem when you go out with him and see competent women. Then he's worth it.
Now Rihannat, why are you still rejecting marriage? I believe some of them are not too old right? And l heard they ready to sponsor your education. You will continue your school after marriage. You know your parents won't push you into a pit hole! Or is their something you are hiding? He is confused.
What do you all think is Rihannat real reason for pushing marriage aside ?????
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