😔 Chapter 3: Releasing the Blame Game
After a breakup, one of the most common emotional traps people fall into is blaming — either blaming their ex, themselves, or both. Blame is a heavy weight that keeps you from healing. To move forward, you must release it.
🔹 Stop Asking "What Did I Do Wrong?"
It's natural to overthink and wonder:
"Was it my fault?"
"Maybe I wasn't enough?"
"If I had done this differently…"
These thoughts are like poison — they feed your pain. Relationships end for many reasons, and it's rarely one person's fault. Sometimes it's timing. Sometimes it's growth. Sometimes it's just incompatibility.
Don't punish yourself with guilt. Learn from the past, but don't live in it.
🔹 Self-Blame Will Break You
Even if you made mistakes, you are human. Every person makes mistakes in love. What matters most is whether you take responsibility and grow, not whether you were perfect.
Let yourself say:
> "I wasn't perfect. But I'm learning. And I still deserve love."
🔹 Blaming Your Ex Won't Heal You Either
They might have hurt you, cheated, lied, or left suddenly. It's okay to be angry — but staying bitter gives them power over your peace.
When you keep saying:
"They ruined my life."
"I'll never trust anyone again."
You're letting the past rule your present.
You don't have to forgive immediately — but you can stop carrying their behavior on your back.
🔹 Forgiveness Is a Gift You Give Yourself
Forgiving doesn't mean what they did was right.
It means you are choosing freedom over pain.
Ways to start forgiving:
Write a letter to them (but don't send it)
Say aloud: "I let go of this pain. It's no longer mine."
Start showing yourself the love they didn't give you
🔹 Choose Healing Over Holding On
You can stay stuck in the blame, or you can use the pain to build something new in your life.
Instead of: ❌ "Why did they do this to me?"
Say: ✅ "What is this teaching me about love and self-worth?"
🕊️ Final Note for This Chapter:
Blame is a prison.
Forgiveness is the key.
Let go — not for them, but for you.
Dickson E